Eid mubarak everyone!

Hello again. The last few weeks since my last post has been both simultaneously busy and slow.  It's been weeks of extremes. How is that possible you might ask? Well, it's been a lot of 'hurry up and wait'; with barages of information all at once at one end of the spectrum, and complete lack of information on the other. No matter, Ramadan is officially over now and that's what I am really excited about.

Eid mubarak everyone! The moon watchers announced the end of Ramadan late last night. What does this actually mean? In short, Muslims are finished with the month-long fast, and I can eat and drink in public again. For Muslims, Eid is a major holiday full of celebrations, gifts and, of course eating. Not that they didn't eat during Ramadan, they could, it just had to be after sundown every day. It's called Iftar, the fast-breaking meal. For me, it means I don't have to sneak into bathroom stalls to drink or eat anymore.

Make no mistake, the Iftar meals are feasts of mouth-watering proportions. After depriving oneself of food and water all day, wouldn't you think you deserved a feast? I know I did. I had the opportunity to partake in the ultimate Iftar at the Emirates Palace a few night ago with a group of my teacher friends.

I have never experienced a food extravaganza such as this one, ever in my life.

First of all, the Emirates Palace is a seven star hotel. I thought the rating system only went to five stars, but little did I know. This is a hotel fit for an emperor. It is a hotel straight out of  a fairytail.

There were cascades of chocolate for dipping fresh fruit and dates; bowls as large as hoola hoops filled with fragrant biryani rice, nuts, spices and chicken. One thousand (or so it seemed) types of savoury salads and dips made from yogurt, cheese, spinach, vegetable, chickpeas, eggplant; curries made with tender, spiced lamb, chicken, fish; dessert platters with countless varieties of baklava, chocolates, turkish delight, nuts, fruits, caramel and chocolate cakes. It was a sumputous feast and I tried all of it, almost every single dish.

I'll let the pictures to do the talking now:

Me in the Emirates Palace lobby

Part of the desserts section complete with chocolate fountain

Some friends and I at the 'Gold to Go' vending machine.

Yes, you can purchase gold blocks in this vending machine.

I've heard gold is a safe investment these days.

This place is full of glitz and glamour and if you are not careful, it is very easy to get caught up in it. I feel like I have to be more dressed up when I go out; make up always on, perfect outfit, bag and shoes. I don't mind it too much and it's different right now for me, as I feel things have gotten a little too casual sometimes at home. I have to be more conscious when I get dressed here anyway because certain items are a no-no: tank tops, spaghetti straps, short skirts or shorts. It's ok, I don't mind, it has forced me to be more conscious of the way I put myself together and how I might come across to others. If I wore any of those aforementioned items, nothing would happen to me, there are no fashion police, but it might warrant un-wanted attention from creepy men or strange, judgmental looks from others especially if they know I am a teacher in the public school board. I am not worried, though, I still wear the clothes I like while still respecting the culture.

It's true what they say, here the shopping mall is where everything happens. I have to say, in the past three days, I have spent more money all at once than I ever have in my life. We received our furniture allowance on Saturday and our apartments the previous week, so as soon as that money was in our accounts it was: on your mark, get set, gooooo shopping! Reason being: we were told that as soon as we get our apartment keys and our furniture allowance we have five business days to vacate the hotel. This also means we have to be able to live in our new aparments and for that we need at least some basic necessities. Which has led me to the age-old philosophical question: what is a basic necessity?

Ha. And I thought it would be fun to furnish an apartment from scratch, kind of like a reality show or something exciting like that. It has been sort of fun, but also extremely stressful. I know you're probably thinking, oh poor, poor Mel, she's stressed about shopping! And yes, I would be with you on that, it is a priviledged place to be; however, the amount of decisions I have had to make in a very short amount of time, such as which stove/fridge/washing machine to buy, are important purchases that normally one would take some time to think through. I feel like I made some of these decisions very quickly, without a lot of information. I don't have much time until I have to be moved out of my luxurious hotel room (haha) and into a completely bare apartment. And then on top of that we have to organize the delivery and assembly for numerous large purchases from numerous places to make sure for example, that we at least have a bed to sleep in when we move in. Which actually, I won't. More on that later though.  

I spent an entire day at Ikea, carefully choosing a couch, bed and frame, coffee table and end tables, rug, shelves, dining table/chairs, wardrobe (there are no closets in my apartment, not one!), pots & pans (Jenny!! ), dishes, bedding, shower curtains, and the list goes on. Only to get to the warehouse end of it and realize I have to pull that long list of major furniture off the shelves myself and organize delivery. And then, after all that they tell me that they do not have in stock the bed, the couch, the end tables, or the wardobe I wanted. I felt my eyes start to well. I thought to myself what is the point of having an Ikea store if they don't have those basic items? And on top of that I hadn't eaten or drank anything all day. I know, poor me. But eventually a nice, smiling, helpful, Ikea lad came along and helped me pull the rest of my items off the shelves and I just decided I would have to purchase the remaining items somewhere else. I have learned you can't dwell on the injustice of it all, you just have to move on. So move on I did. 

That night, we returned to the hotel, showered, went to the Iftar at the Emirates Palace, then on a stomach full of that rich, Iftar food, at 10pm we headed to the Home Centre where I ended up purchasing a lovely couch, mattress and wardrobe. That's the way it works here; the malls are open until very late. So there, at 11:30 pm after an already very long day, I chose my couch. And, it's green.  It's green? Was it my first choice? No. Was it the last one they had in stock? Yes. Was there any other couch that wasn't gaudy and didn't look like it belonged in a palace? No. So I am hoping, when it finally arrives that it doesn't look hideous.

But oh, the problems weren't over. There was one more hitch, they couldn't deliver until the 10th of September. Do you know what that means? I have to move in to my apartment by this coming Thursday, September 1, and I won't have a mattress or even a couch until the 10th.

No bed + marble floors + sleep = ??

However, my lovely neighbour and fellow canuck, Janine, generously offered me her couch for the week. I also purchased a small foam mattress on which I could camp out until the delivery. So be it. At least I can cook food on my new, stainless steel, Italian made, gas stove.

Some photos so you get the idea:

Empty apartment living room with glossy, hard, marble floors

New stove! The first one I have ever purchased.

It was installed yesterday.

I am glad I don't have to shop for a chandelier.

This would be an impossible choice.

So after all that, I need to say this: these experiences have given me a lot of perspective on consumerism, consumption, choice, decision making, and the way we live. My friend Nicole sent me the following article from the New York Times on 'decision exhaustion' and I can relate. It explains a lot about the anxiety mixed with guilt I have been feeling, and possibly the bad design choices I have made while purchasing major furniture items at midnight.

But, these are the truths: perception is everything and if I look at all this from another set of eyes, I see petty problems and superficial complications. It's very annoying, but as they say, 'this too shall pass.' I have everything I need and more and I am profoundly fortunate and grateful for all of my blessings. And every once in awhile I need to catch myself in one of these traps, shake my head and just try to smile. Opportunities like this one are great times to do some 'unlearning' as I like to say. I think to unlearn is to break bad habits or discard negative or unproductive thought patterns or ideologies. One bad habit for me is that I find it's so easy to fall into the trap of not being able to see the forest for the trees. Another one is focusing on what I don't have instead of everything that I do have. These incidents that I write about here are mere snafoos that will be worked out in time and in one year I might have some funny stories, but I am sure at most they will be but vague memories. And, in writing to you all about them, I am also realizing the importance of seeing the humour in it all as well. As I write about all of these annoying things, I realize it's actually all quite ridiculously absurd.  So if you read this far, thank you!

Now, after all this forced consumerism I have undertaken, how to simplify my life after I settle in? Maybe a course in meditation and some non-thinking? A much needed rest. Oh, wait! School starts on the 11th....no rest for the weary.

At least I can eat and drink in public again.

Until next time my dear friends.